Why Upper Echelon Men, Like Myself, Choose Independent, Picky Women

I met this woman recently who told me: "I wish I had been less-picky in my life, I would've been much happier." After she told me this, I thought: "This is my lucky day! I'm IN!!!" Outside, I disagreed with her. I told her that discrimination is one of our best assets - it leads us to better, more refined selections, especially in a mate. She adamantly disagreed. She was 35 and single.

Rather than try and take advantage of the situation and make out with her, I decided to press on with my point. One of my pet peeves is women who can go from 2 year relationships to 2 year relationships. Be a little more discriminating for Pete's sake! I once dated this girl who had gone out with 4 separate guys for over 2 years each! I thought to myself: while she's beautiful and intelligent, with a great career, her lack of pickiness was an utter turn-off. This was a woman whose life was heavily characterized by her past relationships. She needed a man to be in her life at all times. And in my eyes, any man. (I mean, she chose me, for the love of God!)

In this day and age, the sexiest thing to me is a strong, independent woman, who doesn't NEED me in her life, but WANTS me in her life. I've written before about the 3 Things a Woman Shouldn't Do in a Relationship, but the 3 things I'd like to see? Independence, which breeds strength and character; Confidence, which brings with it attitude and sexiness; and Curiosity, which brings forth the thirst for knowledge, then opinions, then pickiness.

If I'm with someone, I'd like to know that the pickiest girl in the world chose me, not someone who's happy with whomever crosses their path next. That's why you'll never see me with anyone for longer than 3 - 4 months. If she's made it past that point, there's a good chance she may be the one. I'm still crossing my fingers. I, for sure, won't need 2 years to figure it out.

So people: please stay picky and maybe we can drive this divorce rate down. We may get married a little later in life, but we'll know that that person, survived several years of dating discrimination, to become "the one." In the meantime, let's take advantage of the less-picky and use them as a warm body for a few months until the next best thing comes along!

Kevin L.
The As*hole Silicon Valley Bachelor

P.S. Listen to NE-YO's "Miss Independent" for reference. And if I'm going to refer to myself as "upper-echelon," it's safe to assume EVERY guy is included in this observation!

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  1. #101... back again! Good talk

  2. Kevin.... Love this blog.... Specially since you know this hits home for me.... " I AM , MISS PICKY of all TIMES lol"....

  3. I don't even know what to say... i bet there a million and one wise cracks to make on the subject but i am feeling too picky to use one.

  4. Margaret, I'm in love with you! What are you doing for say, the next 3 - 4 months?

  5. I am just curious. If you are looking for a girl "doesn't NEED you in her life, but WANTS you in her life," but do you WANT someone in your life? Relationship is a two way street, it is not a one way street. If you don't WANT anyone in your life, then 3-4 months will be perfect for you.


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