While doing research on the traits of cheaters, I was alarmed to find that I possess roughly 60% of the most common dispositions - which puts me at the D range of grades. Can you say "passing!" If only I had done so well in college... Below, I summarized the traits of cheaters from three different websites.
Website #1 (link):
Trouble saying "NO"
Very controlling or very easily controllable
Abuse or Lying
Use of the word "SHOULD"
Website #2 (link):
Website #3 (link):
Needing attention from the opposite sex
Interest in bars and clubs
Need to have new friends
Website #1 I hit for 1 out of 6. Website #2 had me at 3 of 7. And website #3 had me at 6 for 6. If we go by #3, I assume I will be writing this "bachelor" blog until death.
Let me make something clear now. I have cheated before. I'm not happy or proud of the fact. It was July 7th, 1989, and I stayed in jail through a third roll to avoid landing on Boardwalk. I've told no one until today. I'm deeply ashamed. As for cheating on women... yes. Ladies, you've asked me many times before if I've cheated and I typically respond with, "I like to look forward and not dwell on the past." Or, I will look at you seriously for a moment and then feign disgust and shock while saying, "how DARE you ask me something like that! After ALL we've been through...." Then I will fall to the ground in convulsions and fake a seizure.
Just like I don't think people should get married in their early 20s, I don't think you can judge a person by what they did in their late teens and early 20s. People just haven't fully developed and experienced life yet as an individual. You move out of the house at 18, you have a support system in college until 22 - at what point have you made strides to settle into your own skin? I made leaps and bounds discovering who I was as a person all the way into my late 20s. Then after that, my maturity stalled, quickly deteriorating to the equivalent of a small child. BOOBIES! Yay!
Let me tell you what led me to cheat on my college girlfriend - to which I am deeply and forever remorseful. And also, why I think it won't happen again.
Some of the research I did on how to reform cheating behavior said to avoid going out to places that are filled with temptations like bars and clubs - but I think that has little to do with it. You will only fall into temptations if there's problems at home and with yourself. You can't handcuff someone for the rest of their lives in hopes they won't cheat. At least that's what I believe, theoretically. I can't say that I'm living proof... well, for much of anything, except that beautiful people don't have all the answers.
Beautiful people = Me. HAHAHHAAHAH.
Constructive dialogue. Openness. Respect for yourself. Respect for your partner. You may not stay together forever, but at least you will have the courage to part ways with someone amicably and not cheat.