What Entourage and Guys Can Learn From Sex and the City


So I watched Sex and the City the Movie this last weekend - my coworker said I had to turn in my man card - I quickly changed the subject, thus keeping my card. Anyway, besides a bit of candid female conversation that was a bit laborious, I found the movie to be pretty darn good. It was a touching piece of female friendship, camaraderie, and comfort. A level of comfort that is missing in male relationships disguised by machismo, bravado, and homophobia.

One thing that caught my attention at the conclusion, was that 3 out of the 4 guys the women of Sex were with, were less than average, at least in television standards. This didn't necessarily bother me, but I've grown accustomed to seeing dizzying good looks in love interests on the big screen. I asked my friend Karen, who said that one of the themes of the show was exactly that, looks are not that important. I sat back and thought about this far-off and ludicrous idea for a moment, before deciding that Sex and the City was on to something!

Holy Schnikes - looks aren't that important!

If you look out into the world of women on the richter scales of 7s, 8s, 9s, 10s (because, let's face it - those are the only ones we're checking out) - they are absolutely almost always with guys who are below them on the scales. I hardly ever see a really good looking guy with a girl who isn't a knockout. You know why? Our dating pleasures are infinitely defined by the machismo I described above and by our viewing habits. I know of very few guys who don't care about what his male friends think about his girlfriend. We must always date 'hot' - or above our means.


We watch shows like Entourage (the supposedly male version of Sex and the City), where no hot women means we stop tuning in. The whole show is built around men who are living a life that the common man can only dream about. We want to see the guys of Entourage hook up with numerous girls that they would normally NEVER have access to. This is one of the reasons that guys get older and older before they want to settle down. We're too busy 'chasin' the dream!' Good is good, but could be better. Just look at your television screen.

There's a great country song (actually female sung), that goes, "Just as soon as I get what I want, I get unsatisfied. Good is good, but could be better. I keep looking, I keep looking for, I keep looking for something more." It's actually kind of sad, because while women have learned that happiness doesn't reside in good looks, men are still off searching for that next bombshell that television tells us could be ours.

Men could use a show like Sex and the City, or at least one character on Entourage that is going out with a girl who is less than attractive but sweet, caring, smart and wonderful. The character would almost definitely get grief from his friends, but the tune would change when they see the level of engagement, depth of character, humor, warmth, and self deprecation that, quite often, is lacking from some of our "hottest" women. It would be a shocking revelation for them to find out, and for many of us at home, that 'looks aren't that important' - a previously unexplored realm for a 'guy' show.

A male show would fail if 'looks aren't important' were the central theme. Man cards would be repossessed by the boatloads. So as Sex and the City has told us, it must be a subtle message -a subtle message, but an important one that a generation of males are in desperate need of.

Sincerely,
Kevin L.
The Silicon Valley Bachelor

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14 comments :

  1. For future posts, I'd like to see pictures of you and your new ugly girlfriend! Talk the talk, but must walk the walk ;p

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  2. I almost didn't even read this one. You just about lost me in the first 20 words, but because I like you, I kept up and you pulled it together. Kev, you have to get out more to pull this whole blog thing back together again!

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  3. For clarification, I didn't say that I was going to abide by this arcane idea.

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  4. who are you kidding, kevin- they never issued you a man card!

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  5. Why you dirty little snake! Margaret - you're no longer my best friend of my friend's friends. I am hurt by your last comment. In fact, I'm downright emotional. I'm going to watch Sex and the City again tonight by myself with a box of tissues.

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  6. waooooo.....I can't believe that this is written by Kevin Leu. My glasses almost broke into thousand piece while I was reading this. Well, since you killed so many brain cells to write such touch topic, let me give you a little advice.

    The most intelligent man is the one who knows when to stop. Beauty will disappear in time. Only caring and wisdom will appreciate with time. Decide what you want. "Gain one and lose another" This is the rule of nature.

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  7. This is the gayest thing I have ever read.

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  8. Not a bad post at all beside from what the anonymous homophobic dumbass above me says! I think you are making some good points and even though I am a big fan of 'Entourage', I acknowledge your thoughts on the show.

    But that doesn't mean I'm gonna watch 'Sex and the City: The Movie' though! Not because I think its a gay thing to do, but just because I really don't wan't to;)

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  9. Your hotness ratings are off. OF COURSE 8's 9's and 10's almost always date hot muscular men. 8' 9's and 10's would be described as, model, nfl cheerleader, import model or any of that kind of calibur. Now 6's and 7's or what we like to call "cute" girls will date ugly men no problem.

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  10. I don't know. I've always hear in those cases (he nabbed her!?!), it because guys judge us by physical assets and we supposedly judge them by their financial assets. I still like Entourage better than SATC, to the constant amazement and annoyance of my girlfriends.

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  11. Totally! You never really hear, "she nabbed him?!?! Lucky!" Although, I hear it in the background when I'm with women....

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  12. i stumbled upon this blog while at work and you know what i am really glad i read it, my girlfriend of a year is probably a 6 or so on the "richter scale" and often times i'm disctracted by the illusory beauty of the grass on the other side, but when i stop and think of our compatibility with one another, our shared experiences, and all the little acts of compassion and thoughtfulness she has shown me it amazes me that i have found someone so truly special. thank you kevin for reminding me that my girlfriend is "better than my dream girl because she is real"

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  13. @anonymous That is probably the most heartfelt and genuine comment that anyone has left on my blog. Sometimes it's hard for sincerity to come through in text, but I am touched. Thank you. And I'm so very happy for you.

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  14. Women only date down on the Richter scale (9 woman with 7 man, etc.) because most men are ugly. They get fat earlier, they age faster, get bald, and they have sh*t for personality. The only thing most of them had to offer is $$$, but now that women are starting to make more than men, a lot of women I know are opting out. Looks aren't everything, but they are something. Men need to step up their game, especially in Silicon Valley (land of the fugly dudes).

    Also, as a woman, it is irritating to get judged TOTALLY based on looks and have the men judged based on more factors. It is ok to like a pretty woman, but remember the wise saying: "for every pretty woman, there is some man out there who is sick of f*&!ing her." If looks are all ya want, looks are all ya get...

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